The human ego is such that when it takes a hit it can react in the worst possible way. In the case of a break up, a person spurned usually ends up with a wounded ego and that’s when they can get themselves into trouble.
We all like to think we’re indestructible but the reality is we’re not. If you thought your relationship was sailing along nicely without too many problems and then the bombshell was dropped and you’re out the door, then you’ve got to think beyond just spur of the moment decisions.
The decision to dump you was probably the result of a number of “indiscretions” built up over time.
Okay, your relationship has just ended and you’re feeling confused, panicked and desperate.
The problem is, most don’t and will want to stick around and force the issue and argue, constantly be on the phone to their ex trying to get an explanation or harassing their ex’s friends and family trying to get some sort of reason or glimmer of hope that they will be taken back.
You were dumped for a reason or reasons. One of those is your ex wants some time out themselves to clear their head and assess the relationship. If you are constantly hounding them, then they are simply not getting this free time and you will actually be tightening the noose on your relationship.
Advice From The Magic Of Making Up
Well, just like your ex needs time out from you, you also need time out from them and the relationship. You see, for now your relationship is over. One of the reasons Jackson makes a strong case for taking time out is for you to assess whether your relationship and your ex are worth fighting for or whether it’s better to let it go and move on.
Positives And Negatives
Look at the positives and negatives of the relationship. Make two columns and simply name them “negatives” and “positives.”
In the negatives column you do the opposite. What is it now about your ex that you don’t like? Did you differ on certain aspects of life? Did either you or your ex hate going out? Did you dislike each other’s friends.
By now you will have developed a strong list in both columns. The Magic Of Making Up is such a strong relationship repairer because before you even get into the techniques of getting your ex back, you need to establish whether the relationship has a future and that you won’t be back on the outer somewhere in the not too distant future.
