Anger can be a paralyzing and debilitating condition. But it can be a terrifying and degrading experience for your child if you’re taking your anger out on them. Physical and verbal abuse of a child can have lasting and serious implications, so it’s crucial that as a parent, you do whatever is necessary to keep your anger in check.
As a parent, you have a wonderful opportunity to undo the wrongs that were done to you as a child if you had an angry and abusive parent or parents. It can be very curative and demonstrate to you where your troubles lie are and inspire you to fix them. Maybe your past is filled with unresolved hurt and anger. If so, take the necessary steps to heal yourself. If you don’t, you could unwillingly and unthinkingly harm your child. Studies have shown that children whose mothers often express anger are more likely to be hard to discipline. Identify problems from your past and honestly look at current situations that are angering you. Perhaps you aren’t fulfilled at work; perhaps your partner and you are having relationship troubles, maybe you have other personal issues or unfulfilled goals that are worrying you. If all your child ever sees is your angry face and hears an angry voice, that’s what they’ll most likely grow into too.
It’s vital to ‘pick your battles’ when parenting. Accidents and nuisances don’t warrant the energy and agony it takes to get angry. And this is certainly true when it comes to potty training your toddler. You just have to accept that some accidents will happen. There is no point getting angry or frustrated. One way to make toilet training much easier and less stressful is to follow a program
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These articles are packed with practical advice. And don’t worry if some of the articles are specifically aimed at little boys. The advice works just as well if you want to potty train a little girl.
But misbehaviors such as a child hurting themselves, others or property require a firm, quick and appropriate response from you.
You will probably have to constantly remind yourself that the small stuff isn’t worth getting worked up over. And keep reminding yourself also that you’re the one in control of your anger; don’t let your anger control you. Put yourself in time out, take a deep breath, walk away, do whatever you have to in order to get a grip on yourself before addressing the situation if you feel your anger coming on strong.
